Anyone who really gets to know me, will find out soon enough that my parents are the biggest influences in my life. Even though as a teen, I didn’t appreciate them the times that I’ve spent living away from home, have been some of the most insightful periods in my life, and a new-found appreciation for my parents and what they do for me has risen.
Other than the bible telling us to in Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” it also say in Ephesians 6:2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—”
Do you realize that how you treat those around you is a testament to your relationship with God. When we become believers and start the process of dying to ourselves, we sometimes forget or ignore that we have to change our relationships. We go around claiming that Jesus is our Saviour and that we are a new creation but then we turn around and act out as soon as our family members frustrate us. How can someone believe that you are set apart when you badmouth, disrespect, fight and in the case of parents, question their authority. Nobody cares about what you say if the words flowing out of you are not in line with the actions of your life. You say you Love God yet you don’t love your family, and expect people to fully believe that you are change—-who lied to you.
Our families were not chosen by us, God knew what he was doing when he gave you your family, and not only is that something that is forgotten but that we are missionaries to our families and will be held accountable is practically ignored. So what if your brother has pushed you to your limits, or your sister has stolen your clothes countless times even though you have warned her, you need to learn to be set apart. You say that your father is strict and wants you to live with rules that are old-fashioned, so you aren’t having fun…get over it, you are meant to honor them regardless of what they do. Like I said, God knew what he was doing, and he knew that they would test your patience, but nothing is impossible with God. You can’t go out and preach the gospel of a loving God if your relationship with those around you are in shambles.
There is no doubt that parents make mistakes. Remember that they’re humans to and it’s only the grace that God has given, that can help them. You must still honor them and love them. Love is patient and kind and if you can’t be faithful with that, how do you expect to do it with others. I can’t pretend like all families are perfect, or that there aren’t some parents out there that make it extremely difficult, but you have to surrender that to God. Tell him what you want to see change, and ask him to change your heart as well. Even when it’s tough, go out of your way to love them, to hug them, to put a smile on their face. Be the change in your relationships.